The Development of Homosexuality: A Matter of Choice

1. Introduction: the seed that grew

Mellissa Fryrear, in her book "The Seed That Grew: Homosexuality" demonstrates the reality that the seed of homosexuality is planted in an individual and grows as the individual grows. The homosexual habit develops over time and is driven by various factors such as adoption, sexual abuse and teenage years. Ultimately, homosexuality is a matter of choice and not something that someone is born with.

2. The homosexual habit

a. How it develops

The homosexual habit develops over time through repeated behaviours and thoughts. It starts with simple things like watching homosexual porn or thinking about homosexual acts. This then leads to more serious things like touching oneself sexually while thinking about homosexual acts or actually engaging in homosexual acts. The more an individual engages in these behaviours and thoughts, the more they become desensitised to them and the more they begin to see them as normal.

b. What drives it
There are many different factors that can drive the development of a homosexual habit. For some people, it may be because they were adopted into a family where there was already someone who was homosexual. For others, it may be because they were sexually abused by someone of the same sex. And for others still, it may simply be because they went through a phase during their teenage years where they experimented with homosexuality. Ultimately, though, it is a choice that each person makes to either continue down the path of homosexuality or to turn away from it.

3. The homosexual Christian

a. Adoption

There are many Christians who are homosexuals but who have not yet accepted it themselves. Often, these Christians were adopted into families where there was already someone who was homosexual. This can be confusing for them as they try to reconcile their faith with their sexuality. On the one hand, they want to please God but on the other hand, they feel pulled towards homosexuality. Often, these Christians will try to suppress their homosexual feelings but this can lead to inner turmoil and conflict.

b. Sexual abuse
Another group of Christians who are homosexuals are those who were sexually abused by someone of the same sex. This can be a very traumatic experience and can cause a lot of confusion and pain. These Christians often struggle with self-hatred and guilt. They may feel like they are dirty and unworthy of love. They may also struggle with suicidal thoughts and depression. Many of these Christians will try to hide their sexuality from others out of shame and fear.

4. The homosexual teenager

Many teenagers go through a phase where they experiment with homosexuality. Often, this is driven by curiosity or peer pressure. For some teenagers, this phase will pass and they will go on to lead heterosexual lives. But for others, this phase will turn into a more serious habit. These teenagers will begin to think about homosexuality more often and they may even engage in homosexual acts. Often, these teenagers will not yet be comfortable with their sexuality and they may try to hide it from others.

5. The homosexual at University

At University, many homosexuals will come out to their friends and family. For some, this will be a positive experience but for others, it will be met with rejection and judgement. Often, these homosexuals will feel isolated and alone. They may struggle to find friends who accept them for who they are. They may also struggle academically as they try to come to terms with their sexuality. Ultimately, though, many homosexuals at University find strength in themselves and in others who are like them.

6. Conclusion

Homosexuality is a matter of choice and not something that someone is born with. There are many different factors that can contribute to the development of a homosexual habit but ultimately, it is up to the individual to either continue down the path of homosexuality or to turn away from it. Christians who are homosexuals often struggle to reconcile their faith with their sexuality but many find strength in God. Teenagers who experiment with homosexuality often do so because of curiosity or peer pressure but for some, this phase will turn into a more serious habit. Homosexuals at University often come out to their friends and family but many find strength in themselves and in others who are like them.

FAQ

Homosexuality has been viewed throughout history as a sin, an abomination, and a mental illness. In recent years, however, there has been a shift in thinking and homosexuality is now more widely accepted.

There are many factors that contribute to someone's sexuality, including biology, psychology, social influences, and personal experiences.

The acceptance of homosexuality has changed dramatically over time. In the past, it was considered taboo and was often punishable by law. Today, however, homosexual relationships are more accepted by society and there are even laws in place to protect them.