Failure: What it is and how to deal with it

1. Introduction: Defining failure

The word ‘failure’ has different connotations for different people. For some, it may mean not meeting their own personal expectations, while for others it may mean not meeting the standards set by society or those in positions of authority. In either case, failure takes different forms and is not always of the same magnitude.

Performance that is not up to the expected standards does not necessarily allude to failure. In fact, many times it is simply a matter of being human and making mistakes. It is only when we allow our mistakes or shortcomings to define us that we truly fail.

2. Choking under pressure

One type of failure that is often spoken about is choking under pressure. This is when someone who is normally capable of performing at a high level fails to do so because of the added pressure of the situation.

For example, a tennis player who has been consistently winning tournaments may suddenly start losing when they reach the finals of a major tournament like Wimbledon. This was the case for Jana Novotna in 1993 when she was leading Steffi Graf in the final by a set and a break, only to end up losing the match.

Choking under pressure is often seen as a sign of weakness or lack of ability, but in reality, it is simply a human reaction to feeling overwhelmed. When we feel like we have to be perfect, we often put too much pressure on ourselves and this can lead to mistakes. The key is to learn how to cope with pressure in a healthy way so that it doesn’t hinder our performance.

3. Society’s perception of failure

Society often has unrealistic expectations of what constitutes as success. This can be seen in the way that people are quick to label someone as a ‘failure’ if they don’t meet certain standards.

For example, a student who doesn’t get into their dream school may be seen as a failure by those around them, even though they may have worked hard and done their best. The same can be said for someone who doesn’t get promoted at work or who doesn’t win a competition.

The problem with this way of thinking is that it doesn’t allow for any room for error or mistakes. It also puts unnecessary pressure on people who are already struggling to achieve their goals. Rather than viewing failure as something negative, we should instead see it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

4. Conclusion: Learning from failure

Failure is going to happen at some point in our lives, but it’s important to remember that it’s not the end of the world. What matters most is how we deal with it and what we learn from it.

If we allow failure to define us, then we will never reach our full potential. However, if we view it as an opportunity to learn and grow, then we can use it to our advantage. The key is to not give up and keep trying until we reach our goals.


Some of the biggest failures I have experienced in my life are when I didn't get the grades I wanted in school, when I didn't make a team I wanted to be on, and when a relationship ended.

When these failures happened, I was really upset and disappointed in myself. But after some time had passed, I was able to see that these failures weren't the end of the world and that I could learn from them.

From my failures, I learned that it's important to keep perspective and not take things too seriously. I also learned that it's okay to make mistakes - we all do it! What's important is how we learn from our mistakes and grow as people.